Quarterly Reviews - Part 5
Quarterly Review Series:
Quarterly Reviews - Part 5
SPECIFIC QUARTERLY REVIEW IDEAS by Laura Stiller
Each of our quarter reviews look different (I'll get to specific quarterly review ideas in a minute), but this has kept them fresh and fun for us.
Some of our trips have been strictly for play. Any talk of our marriage just flows, it's not structured or planned. Some of our weekend trips have been fully structured complete with an agenda, discussion topics and intentional questions - sometimes even with homework (or books to read BEFORE the quarterly review in preparation for a discussion).We've needed both of these at different times in our marriage. Danny has been stellar at discerning what types of things to plan for our quarterly reviews and deciding what kind of tone our week needs to take.
Let me give you a few suggestions.
Please keep in mind that each marriage/couple is vastly different, so part of what will make quarterly reviews beneficial for you is how you tweak and customize them to your needs and personalities.
Free/Cheap Activities:
Sample Discussion Questions:
Some of our trips have been strictly for play. Any talk of our marriage just flows, it's not structured or planned. Some of our weekend trips have been fully structured complete with an agenda, discussion topics and intentional questions - sometimes even with homework (or books to read BEFORE the quarterly review in preparation for a discussion).We've needed both of these at different times in our marriage. Danny has been stellar at discerning what types of things to plan for our quarterly reviews and deciding what kind of tone our week needs to take.
Let me give you a few suggestions.
Please keep in mind that each marriage/couple is vastly different, so part of what will make quarterly reviews beneficial for you is how you tweak and customize them to your needs and personalities.
Free/Cheap Activities:
- tubing
- outdoor movie
- camp out
- find a local event
- rent a tandem bicycle
- go back to places with memories
- watercolor
- go site-seeing with your camera - take pictures together (this is on our "to-do" list)
Sample Discussion Questions:
- What has been the biggest adjustment being married?
- What has been the hardest struggle in our marriage?
- What have you struggled with personally since getting married?
- What has been most unexpected thing about marriage?
- What has been the biggest blessing since getting married?
- What do you want to focus on/improve next quarter (marriage & personally)?
- Things we've learned since getting married.
- What's your spiritual life been like this quarter?
- What are some things you've prayed for this quarter?
- What are some ways that I have (and maybe currently do) hurt you?
- What can I do so that I don't hurt you anymore.
- Establish some "Action Steps" for building/maintaining intimacy (in anticipation of a busier semester).
- Write down 10 things that make you feel loved.
- What are our spiritual, physical, emotional, social and intellectual goals for the next Quarter?
- What have our challenging/stressful circumstances been this quarter & how can we relieve the stress? (ie: packing lunches, planning menus, doing laundry, etc.)
- What are our prayer needs this quarter (because if we don't feel like we need God then we won't go to Him)?
- What is the most humanly impossible thing you'll ask God to do this year?
- Where are some places we'd like to try to go on future quarterly reviews? (ie: Grand Canyon, West Coast, New Orleans - we dream big folks)
- What did we accomplish this quarter that we had set as goals last quarter?
- What's improved in our relationship this quarter?
And that, my new friends, is the book The Stillers have written for themselves on Quarterly Reviews since sitting on a worn leather couch the summer of 2005.
It is still being written, with many editions to come.
It is still being written, with many editions to come.
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